The Making and the Re-Making of 
A Codependent Mind

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Brian offers a deeply personal and insightful journey into the heart of codependency. Through his own experiences and powerful psychological insights, Brian illuminates the complex dynamics of codependent relationships, offering readers a transformative path to emotional autonomy and healthier, more fulfilling connections. This book not only explores the painful cycle of dependency but also provides practical tools for breaking free from destructive patterns. Whether you're recovering from past trauma or seeking to build stronger, more authentic relationships, The Making and the Re-Making of a Codependent Mind is a valuable guide to healing, self-discovery, and embracing a life of true emotional freedom.

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"This was the best description I have ever heard of my own background and the coping mechanisms I developed in response. The specifics are different, but the general patterns he describes of how people in his life impacted how he felt about himself and how he responded, and how those patterns reinforced themselves over time fit like a glove from my perspective."

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"I read Codependent No More about seven years ago and it didn’t really help me make any changes in my life. This book (and the podcast) has offered me so much more - it has helped me make sense of my own experiences and be more compassionate with myself. Most of all, it has offered me hope that I too can overcome trauma and shame and find love. And I have! I highly recommend it to anyone struggling with codependency or related behaviors. Reading about Brian’s efforts will help you do the work."

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"I’ve read books on codependency, watched videos on codependency, been to Coda and therapy and this is the first time I’ve ever heard someone articulate their experience in a way that I can relate to."

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"I have been on my journey to healing from codependency for the past five years. I have read many books and followed many podcasts on this subject. This has been the most helpful to me. It has given me words that pinpoint exactly how I feel and helped me go deeper in the causes of my codependent behaviors."

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Follow Brian's transformative journey from codependency and despair to joyful, fulfilling and sustaining relationships. Gain invaluable guidance into examining your own life and crafting a personalized pathway to heal from codependency and trauma.

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In Part 1 Brian explores:

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• The family dynamics in childhood that set the stage for codependent habits. 

• The long term effects of trauma, including its complex and chronic manifestations. Threat responses (particularly freeze and fawn) and the connection to the behaviors that make up codependency. 

• The role of shame and fear in deepening codependent habits.

• How codependent behaviors fostered isolation and perpetuated dysfunctional relationship dynamics.

• The toxic interplay between narcissism and codependency, and the trauma bonds that ensnared him in relationships with abusive narcissists.

 

In Part 2 Brian describes:

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• What is on the other side of codependency? Is it worth it?

• Healing from emotional wounds by connecting with other people, repairing the emotional system and re-writing stories.

• Breaking the codependent habits including people pleasing, caretaking and lack of boundaries that prevent from the emotionally intimate relationships. 

• Acquiring a new approach to romantic relationships.

 

This book is a beacon of hope for those seeking liberation from codependency's grip, providing both insights and practical guidance for the journey toward authenticity and connection.

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